sexual thoughts are natural and require no effort to suppress. "I can simply let them go".

"Watch your thought simply let it go"

Part 2 of 2 life story:

Yes, this is the famous word "Process is more important than the result" spoken by Legendary sportsman M.S. Dhoni in the interview, I didn't understand this quote's meaning before, and this is the mantra for success! The reality is sexual feelings, and sexual thoughts aren't a crime at all, and all generations of parents could hesitate to their children indirectly to talk. In my home, I didn't get this knowledge through my parents if it would have happened, I wouldn't have written this passage on behalf of everyone, right?

Because sex is a natural one in all kinds of living beings, some students have managed with their own in some positive manner through someone's guidance. Many of them felt guilty about talking with their parents, friends, and others to share sexual knowledge. 

Do you think addiction to alcohol, smoking, or drugs should have the same impact in the same way:

Yes, it is also harmful to the person and society, "Our brain cells are addicted to porn movies, which are related to dopamine-made intense pleasure with your body, and it has saved into body memory and brain cells that remember you in each time whenever clock ticks. It depends, How much you have watched pornographic film, and stories that you read, and you can't be able to forget or cross the feelings from your brain or nervous cells. It gives some signal unless you know the methods to handle it". How do smoking and alcohol keep you thinking you wanted today with the same impact that you feel with this habit!!!

What are the ways I suggested to everyone, whenever you are in sexual urge arise within you: 

Back to my personal story, I struggled a lot to understand in the year 2021, I started to talk with my mom and shared my feelings about not being able to handle my sexual thoughts. she didn't think I went the wrong way and didn't know how to teach me after that I realized even parents hesitate to talk or are not capable of it, but I feel very safety in-order to that whenever I feel sexual thoughts arise appropriately, I have gone to my mom, and please take care for the while. this is the way I suggested to all if you are triggered by sexual urges, kindly get help from your mom until you handle it on your own.

What are the common Porn myths followed by society when I shared my information regarding pornography-People said:

• Most people said don't get addicted-watch less time and don't share this information with anyone without friends;
• if you get married, and then you will resolve this problem;
• Some people still think masturbation is healthy without crossing the limit.

I tell if you are masturbation twice a week and end with some numbers in the overall month you aren't happy I am damn sure that 99 percent of people have faced guilt, and confusion over when you take the decision, you couldn't able to talk with girls in a natural way, the main thing is you are feeling depressed over some time, your body muscles get weak, your confidence level gets very low, if you have girlfriend even though you couldn't express your love utmost care, and over and over many problems you would occur.

My problem I faced until 2023:

At the above points in my life, I didn't have much problem, I'd been confused about taking up the decision, and sometimes I felt I was depressed, energy lost, and completely out of focus away from goals that I wanted to achieve.

My Turning points of my life:

Until the year 2023, I managed with the help of my mother's guidance, and I felt whenever my mom wasn't available in my mom. god helped me into my life by providing a lot of decisions I would take my life after June month in the year 2023, Yes I changed my place from Coimbatore to Chennai then I got a job in a Tech-leading company after I was very struggling to maintain my job security because you know there are new people and a new team that you need to express your talent and also your team provides you with decent feedback so, lot of responsibility I have faced and covered up-myself I didn't give my best work due to health issue and there is no support from the team except few people from another team.

The days moved even though I couldn't be able to stop and breathe my air slowly you know what I never watched, given the space to think about sexual movies, my brain completely got away from masturbation and other related thoughts.

I saw myself back then in the year 2022, 2021, and 2020, how much effort I needed to put those days to come out from masturbation but in 2023 I easily crossed over then I realized and understood the way to come out from any habits. Nothing put any effort against you, just be with the flow and focus on your dreams and what you need to achieve "There is no EXPECTATION FROM YOUR WORK" Just believe in the process that you need to deliver, and in fact. I didn't accept that thought crossed me without harming me throughout the weeks, days, and months of the year 2023. 

Please be "FOUCSED ON YOUR DREAM OR WORK" that you need to do even if you face sexual thoughts or urges. 

Do this one:

Meditation has allowed me to discover and experience this profound truth:

Main point to remember:

• Watch your thoughts again then, and don't react anything against sexual thoughts or memories, it would take around 20 to 30 minutes, depending on each person.

In the next post, I will speak about of How we learn how to control feelings of sex and provide to all with some tips.

Regards,

Ramkumar Kannammal Kanagaraj