YOU ARE IN LOVE

I LOVE U

We celebrated Happy valentine's day on February 14. That Enough? Remaining 364 Days we aren't happy? Since from the centuries has stated Love is god, Love comes between male and female, Love shows from mother to child, father to son, some other relationships if you think "Love is an object you have to buy from one person to other or installment happiness, expectations, sacrifice, tolerance, etc". My ultimate understanding about "we are living in love". Here I am talking about where we misunderstood? some rational points, finally my words: 

STOP TO SAY I LOVE YOU

Instead of telling we are living in love. It is not a "by-product from any place or person, society". It's coming out from our soul from every second, minute even throughout our life. If I say to someone "I love you what is exactly I may love today this feeling has been continued from the past but I am not sure about how long it could be continuing with her. Love is a feeling or action based on our unconsciousness to react with someone". 

If I think I am conscious with a girl how I suppose to talk if I say any word it would be either materialistic or preplanned things so, Love needs to express and not to declare it. We wouldn't predict the future. then, I am not supporting for living together-relationship but opinion may be changed through the year passes then you may discomfort with the relationship. What to do?

We can't blame ourselves because our environment doesn't favor it they always condemn through some ideas from the sources of media, all religion, education system, parents, so, it occurs with opposite gender only once even not more than it. famous dialogue " a flower nourish only once at a time not again". why we shouldn't love the trees it would be possible? We have been taught by wrong guidance. for many years they guided us in the wrong direction regarding love.

COME OUT FROM THE FALLACY: LOVE IS NOT A GIFT & NEVER DEPENDS ON HS/HER 

Could you understand my thought? "I never worry about when someone gives me the Love gift because it's already I have when I was born". If I got this point then I am happy with the marriage, friendship, anything such that because love is transferred to all aspects of my life.

CHANGE YOUR VISION: watching tv; reading a book, shopping; cooking; eating a biryani every week; keep changing some hairstyle; motivating others, and developing trees in our place, helping to the orphanage, etc whatever we are doing in our life it would be love. Love is Everywhere. 

Next one: Freedom is an integral part between love and friendship after we realized love. Have you seen any relationship is looking good because of freedom so, we have a doubt either should I treat my wife as a friend Yes! of course, because all we knew that "friendship is no barriers, ego clashes, complexities, caste, color, no ego, no permission, dominance between each other, we need not worry about how much I sacrifice to you, spend money, time, no worry about how long I am living with her/him. besides that, more importance is trust so, there is no place for doubt". 

FOR EXAMPLE

when I have committed/thought to my wife as my close friend because here we deal with freedom there are no restrictions and I explore better in the area like feelings, problems, even more secrets, approximate plans as If I would have been thought of as a wife. so, the decision is ours.

Reports shown like 1/3th of people are unhappy due to wrong decisions when they decided on marriage because we have less time to think about taking up the decision how you suppose to know a person who is comfortable with your husband or wife. Once you picked up then you will share your life in the long run so, we don't have any stethoscope to know the exact results. Better we assume I am going to talk with my new friend so, you can easily get solutions while you are in the decision process.

 

CONCLUSION

Thank you My Guru for the "BOOK OF WOMEN" written by "MR. OSHO THE GREAT LEADER". I strongly recommend to you to read this book. why women were treated as "unequal" (how we treated in the past period and now). How to respect women's feelings and give them space when we are sexual relationship? I make a post related to women's liberation later. The Book of Women is a more informative one when you will read it.

I have written this article only when I moved to the 78th page. If you think I may conflict with you or your personal view I am SORRY and here I have tried to say how important is living in love with freedom either you consider as a wife, friends, brother&sister and all. It is not searchable that is an inner feeling we have already through the soul. Thank you.